Saturday, August 4, 2012

No More Tears, No More Pain

Hello everyone, this is James, Cathy's oldest son.  Many months ago, when Mom began hospice, she asked me to post occasionally on her blog in the event that she passed away.  She wanted to make sure that all her blog friends she loved so much, weren't left in the dark about what was going on with her or us.  I've delayed posting this because I haven't wanted to acknowlegde what has happened.

On Sunday, July 22nd, the greatest mother the world has ever known went home to the loving hands of our Lord.  Her seven-year, hard-fought battle with cancer is over.  Despite how much our hearts are breaking, we know that she has finally had the privelege of seeing God face to face.  She completed her race and now gets all the rewards for how well she ran it.  The tears and pain that had plagued her life for quite some time vanished, just like the Lord promised in Revelation 21:4.  She no longer has to deal with even the slightest of health problems in her new body.  For eternity, she gets to experience an absolutely perfect existence, filled with all the joy and pleasure that we can only dream of.

Life without her will be a struggle every day for the six of us.  She constantly was taking care of us, rarely using any time for herself.  I've never seen such a selfless person in my life.  Every problem we ever had, we could take to her.  Even if she knew she couldn't fix it, she would try her utmost.  And when that failed, she would be there to love and encourage us at every point on this journey through life.  She homeschooled all five of us so she could train us in the ways of the Lord.  I know many of you understand what a difficult task that was!  While some parents send their kids off to school so they can have a break, mom enjoyed every possible oppurtunity to spend time with us.  When God decided that she was going to be my mother, I feel like He told me, "I'm gonna give you a HUGE head-start in the life; let's see what you can do with it."  We all loved her so much and will miss her unending love, beautiful smile, smart problem-solving, love for pictures and music, funny expressions, and joy in life.  But most importantly, we will miss the godly example she set for us every single day and the amazing relationship she had with Him.

On behalf of Mom, the rest of my family, and myself, I would like to thank each and every one of you who lifted up prayers for her during the last many months and years.  Even though she's gone, your prayers were definately not in vain!  We were told countless times while she was on hospice that she only had one month to live, but God heard our prayers and gave us nine months instead!  I can see more clearly now how each and every day He allowed us to have with her, though very difficult at times, was a tremendous blessing.  We humbly ask you to continue praying for us, that we would grieve and heal in a manner completely glorifying to Him.

 A memorial service will be held for her on Saturday, August 11th, at 11am.  If any of you wish and are able to attend, below is the address for the church:

The Grove Community Church
19900 Grove Community Drive
Riverside, CA 92508

I'll leave you all with this song.  For me, it's a constant reminder of how she strove to live every second of her life.  I sure think she did an extraordinary job!


  1. James - the Lord has let you know that you have been given a HUGE headstart in this life. Praise God for your mother through whom he has blessed you, your siblings and your dear father. We grieve for your family because of your immeasurable loss.

    May your heartache be quickly replaced with comfort, may your tears be gathered up into the Lord's hands and may you all be overwhelmed with love.
    Description of a Worthy Woman

    10 An excellent wife, who can find?

    For her worth is far above jewels.

    11 The heart of her husband trusts in her,

    And he will have no lack of gain.

    12 She does him good and not evil

    All the days of her life.

    13 She looks for wool and flax

    And works with her hands in delight.

    14 She is like merchant ships;

    She brings her food from afar.

    15 She rises also while it is still night

    And gives food to her household

    And portions to her maidens.

    16 She considers a field and buys it;

    From her earnings she plants a vineyard.

    17 She girds herself with strength

    And makes her arms strong.

    18 She senses that her gain is good;

    Her lamp does not go out at night.

    19 She stretches out her hands to the distaff,

    And her hands grasp the spindle.

    20 She extends her hand to the poor,

    And she stretches out her hands to the needy.

    21 She is not afraid of the snow for her household,

    For all her household are clothed with scarlet.

    22 She makes coverings for herself;

    Her clothing is fine linen and purple.

    23 Her husband is known in the gates,

    When he sits among the elders of the land.

    24 She makes linen garments and sells them,

    And supplies belts to the tradesmen.

    25 Strength and dignity are her clothing,

    And she smiles at the future.

    26 She opens her mouth in wisdom,

    And the teaching of kindness is on her tongue.

    27 She looks well to the ways of her household,

    And does not eat the bread of idleness.

    28 Her children rise up and bless her;

    Her husband also, and he praises her, saying:

    29 “Many daughters have done nobly,

    But you excel them all.”

    30 Charm is deceitful and beauty is vain,

    But a woman who fears the Lord, she shall be praised.

    31 Give her the product of her hands,

    And let her works praise her in the gates.

  2. Oh, James!
    Thank you so much for letting us know.
    We are of course, praying for all of you.
    I have only known your mom through blogworld, but she was an amazing woman and such an encouragement.
    Please whenever you can, let us know how all of you are doing.
    Your mom loved you all so much and was an inspiration to us all.

  3. I am so sorry to hear of your loss. Praise God that you have the comfort of our Heavenly Father, knowing she is in His presence. Though my interactions with her were brief, I loved her much in the LORD. I have been thinking of her and wondering how you all are doing. I am on the other side of the country in NY so unable to attend the Memorial Service but will be in prayer for the whole family. One of my favorite songs was first heard here on her blog, "Blessed Be The Name of The Lord". I know she is saying that now in the presence of our LORD and Savior. Much love to your family as they walk through this loss. Please let us know if there is anything we can do.

  4. James,

    What a beautiful and heartfelt tribute to your mom. I read about her passed last week and was so terribly sorry to hear the news, yet, as you have so beautifully written, she is finally at peace and healthy.

    You are a shining example of her Godliness, it is evident in your post how much she loved you all and how blessed you all have been to be a part of her family.

    My prayers will continue for your family. Something tells me you will all be ok because you know that Lord so intimately!

    Bless you all,

  5. James -
    What a beautiful soul you have - your words are just so deep and touching. You are a brave and incredible man of God - to write down these very personal and private thoughts for us to share. Thank you. I see the reflection of your Momma's writing in your writing and I know she is so proud of you (and all of your siblings) & Dad for being such an amazing family to her and to each other. What a privilege to be called her friend and to be called a friend of the entire Williams Family.
    Our hearts and prayers will continue to be with you all in this difficult time. You are all so special to us and to so many out here in Tennessee - we will all hold you up to our Papa God in prayer - much love - the Guido family

  6. Keeping your family in my thoughts and prayers.


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